Much like my psycho ex-girlfriend, a married man will often describe his wife in unflattering terms. He’ll tell you that she doesn’t understand him, they’ve grown apart, she nags him constantly, etc., etc., etc. Now I won’t say that his wife is perfect because I don’t know her (and neither do you!), but he saw enough in her at some point to commit to spending the rest of his life with her.
At the same time, he’ll be telling you everything you want to hear. You’re so sweet, uncomplicated, you “get him“. Please remember that he’s saying anything that he has to in order to get into your panties. He has nothing to lose at this point – even if you turn him down, he’s still going home to his wife! This power play also occurs when you argue with your married lover, again, he has nothing to lose.
Do not allow a man to put you into competition with his wife (or with any other woman for that matter). The moment he tries to set up that dynamic, refuse to accept it. Human interactions are far more complex than the oversimplification that he’s trying to hand you. You are neither the lion nor the lamb…..but neither is she.