Direct from my desk – week 36

Every once in a while I’ll see something on television that is exactly why I write my blog.  Case-in-point, Jaclyn from Bachelor Pad 3 (don’t judge me! *lol*).  I’m not even going to touch that whole my-best-friend-is-dead-to-me-because-she-didn’t-hand-me-a-$250,000-win-on-a-reality-tv-show thing because that’s just beyond the pale.  No, I want to go back a bit further in the series.

Ed and Jaclyn.  Jaclyn gets paired up with Ed, whom she finds attractive.  He’s nice to her, perhaps even a little relationshippy in his interactions with her but he’s very honest when he tells her that he’s not interested and that they’re just friends.  Instead of hearing this, she get all excited that they’re going on a one-on-one date so that she can get to the bottom of how he feels about her.  On the date, he re-iterates that they’re just friends and that he doesn’t think of her that way.  She ignores this and presses him for some form of relationship status.  He brings out that he’s seeing someone at home and she’s still refusing to get the picture. Simply by virtue of him being kind to her, she wants to assume that they’re in some form of relationship even though he’s told her specifically that they’re not (at least in the way that guys-who-don’t-want-to-be-the-bad-guy get specific).

If a guy tells you that you are not his girlfriend, I don’t care if you’re hooking up with him – you are not his girlfriend.

I know that we tend to believe what we want to believe but when the facts are there in your face – accept them and move on.  Guys will act relationshippy because it makes life easier for them; it makes us happier and easier to handle.  Do not read into it.  Just because he cuddles for a few minutes after a booty call doesn’t mean that it wasn’t a booty call, it means that he was doing “maintenance” (more on that in another blog).

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