Okay ladies, this is going to sting.
So we’ve all been in that somewhat ambivalent relationship where we don’t know where the guy’s head is at. He’ll tell you that he’s not ready to commit yet but you can’t see a really good reason (really good reasons include a family medical emergency, finishing school, etc.). Let me break it down for you – he might be ready to commit but not to you.
If the right girl came along, he’d commit in a nanosecond. However, you’re not that girl and under no circumstances will I advocate attempting to change yourself into *that girl* just to make him happy. This isn’t about you though. In all likelihood, you’ve done nothing wrong; you’re simply convenient for the moment, however long that moment lasts.
How do you differentiate the dithering idiot from the manchild? The manchild refuses to grow up. The dithering idiot is a already an adult who handles his responsibilities. The manchild doesn’t realize the relationship has no future; the dithering idiot is fully aware that you’ll never be anything more than his ‘girlfriend.’
If you find yourself in this situation, recognize it, extricate yourself, and move on. Don’t blame yourself for anything more than allowing him to waste your time, and go find a guy who deserves you.