You may be tempted to confront your partner if you’ve seen something in the past two weeks that looks familiar. I would caution against this until you’ve formulated an exit strategy with multiple what-ifs. However, sometimes we don’t wait for whatever reason and we find ourselves on a one-way train to crazyville with our partner.
If you are in the middle of the argument – stop. This can be difficult, especially if you love a good argument or you are convinced you’re right. When the realization hits you that you really don’t want to be in this argument, stop arguing. Instead, ask for a moment to think, tell him that you think he may have a point, and you’d like to mull it over before continuing the discussion. Your partner may not be all that willing to give you one, especially if he’s the type that loves to win, and you may have to forcibly walk away for the moment.
If, on the other hand, you’re already in the middle of a cold war, it’s time to break the ice. Tell him that obviously something has gone drastically wrong and you’d at least like a chance to talk it through and clear the air. Then tell him that you’re willing to do it when he’s ready so that he doesn’t feel cornered. It may not resolve the entire problem but it should make the air distinctly less chilly between the two of you.
Of course now you’re going to have to come up with that plan I mentioned earlier….