Oh put your pitchforks down, ladies! I’m not working for the opposition. In fact, quite the opposite. We have been sold a bill of goods that, in order to be real women, we must be independent women.
The dictionary defines independent as, amongst other things, not relying on another or others for aid or support. So in order to be an authentic female, we must rely on no one else for anything; we must learn everything, say everything, do everything without the help of another person. This is utter hogwash and impossible to accomplish.
So why does this concept persist? The sad thing to say is, we all feed into it. We feel like it’s the gold standard and anything less than perfection is letting down ourselves and our sisters.
You have to ask yourself why have you never heard the term “independent man”? It’s because they’ve already figured it out. Notwithstanding a few cliches (e.g., asking for directions), men are not afraid that getting help will rob them of their autonomy.
It’s time for us to drop the act and learn to be interdependent, not independent, but that my lovelies, is another blog.