Some men are addicts although their drug of choice does not come in pill form, they’re addicted to love. Or rather, they’re addicted to the first blush of love – the crush. A crush brings a rush of hormones that create that heady feeling, where you’re swimming through a pool of euphoria, skipping from one high to the next. I mean, when you put it like that, who wouldn’t want to live with that feeling all the time.
Except for the fact that it’s just a crush. It’s not real love, it’s a chemical reaction in your body to convince you to breed. It’s easy to get and almost impossible to sustain. Like addiction, you want that constant high but a long-term, stable relationship rarely delivers that fix.
So a man who is addicted to crushes will constantly go out in search of them, even if he’s already in a stable relationship. He’s chasing that high and that means that his full attention is not on you. Unfortunately there is nothing you can do to solve this for him. It’s a bottomless pit that he’s going to have to learn how to fill up, patch over, or build a bridge – all on his own or with the help of a therapist.
If you can see this guy coming, avoid him. If you’re already involved, get him help or you’ll forever play second fiddle.