A close relative of the Eeyore is the victim. A victim wanders through life wondering why he’s so persecuted. He may seem sweet, sensitive, and born under a dark cloud. He’s the perpetual underdog.
Victims can be quite attractive. A nice guy with a run of bad luck. He may appeal to your mothering side, your desire to help (do NOT give him any money). Sooner or later, you’re going to realize that he doesn’t attract misfortune, he courts it.
It could be that he doesn’t want to be happy. Maybe he doesn’t know how to be happy. He seeks out situations that will create unhappiness and then he revels in it. Then he paints himself as the unfortunate victim to gain sympathy. (This last part is pure manipulation – even if they aren’t conscious they’re doing it.)
Should you find yourself involved with a victim, you should politely bring to their attention their pattern of behavior. This can be difficult without sounding parental or judgmental. Do your best to keep an even tone and use examples where you aren’t saying I told you so.
Do not be surprised if he flips the script and you find yourself in the role of the bad guy. He’s accustomed to being the victim so don’t expect his attitude to change overnight. Victims can be difficult to change, even with counseling so don’t be surprised if you’re soon packing your bags.