So once you’ve decided if you’re in or out, then you need to choose to commit. In choosing to commit you are choosing to look past the small issues that could derail your relationship and you are choosing to concentrate on the bigger picture.
No relationship is perfect. (If it is, you may want to ask yourself if you’re interacting with an authentic person.) In every relationship you will need to make choices – choices in what you do and what you do not do. When faced with a “crisis”, take a moment and ask yourself how you can best handle the situation. You can choose how you react. You can choose to focus on the whole, not the parts.
When you choose to commit, you are choosing the other person with all their flaws. Do not attempt to “fix” them beyond recognition, after all, you were attracted to them as they were to begin with. You are choosing to live with their imperfections and they are choosing to live with yours. Like many things in life, it’s a trade-off.
Keep in the forefront of your mind that committing is a choice. You should not make the decision lightly but you should do it with your whole heart and mind. Neither you nor your partner deserve anything less.