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Men without work

We live in a time where it is not uncommon to know a family member, friend, or neighbor who is out of work.  Unemployment benefits are finite and while they can be supplemented by your emergency fund, the situation can cause incredible stress in a relationship.  Unless a person is willfully and chronically unemployed without the consent of their partner, this isn’t a reason to break up.

A man involuntarily without a job is a man in need of a soft place to land.  He’s hurt.  He’s suffering.  He’s trying to put on a brave face which may look like insensitivity.  He may even lie to you about his feelings or activities (this isn’t an excuse for lying, I’m just saying it may happen).

You may be angry.  You may be anxious over money.  You may feel that he isn’t doing enough to find a job or take care of the family.  He already knows this.  Reminding him of it will not improve your relationship.  If you need to vent, you have a best friend.

Support him.  Coax him along.  Do your best to be understanding.  You’re in this together.  Don’t whine when you have to give up cable television or eating at restaurants.  You will get those back when finances improve.  You will never get the man back if you let him go just because of money.

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