Holiday invitations are starting to roll in and quickly your free time will be taken over with social commitments. It’s easy to feel overwhelmed and even easier to feel disconnected with your partner. Here’s how to handle it:
- Keep an online calendar that both of you can check remotely (work, smartphone, etc.). Check before you book anything and put anything you commit to on the calendar.
- Establish a mandatory transition time if you have two events schedule for the same day. A good calculation is one hour plus preparation time/transportation time. This will keep you from feeling stressed out and sniping at each other.
- Determine an arrival time and a departure time. Stick to your schedule even if you’re having fun. It’s better to leave them wanting more.
- Learn to distinguish between a mandatory commitment and an optional commitment. Family commitments are mandatory. Work commitments may seem optional but be careful – a lot of socializing with the higher-ups occurs at company and department holiday parties.
- Stock your kitchen with easy-to-prepare meals and healthy snacks you can eat on the go. Don’t let your blood sugar get the better of your emotions.
- Where possible, carpool only with your significant other and use the time in the car as your opportunity to connect, not just exchange small talk or information.
- Stick to your sleep schedule. Sleep-deprivation can lead to forgetfulness and short-tempers, neither of which is conducive to a healthy relationship.