From the time we’re born we’re told that being selfless is necessary for successful relationships. While you should attempt to be understanding of your partner, attempting to be 100% selfless in a relationship is the price of a ticket to resentmentville.
So here’s what your mother didn’t tell you…it’s okay to be a little selfish. I’m not talking taking the last slice of chocolate cake selfish but rather, you should incorporate time and elements into your relationship in order to take care of yourself, too. If you’re not taking care of your needs how can you take care of anyone else’s needs?
Every relationship is a balancing act and you want to get it close to even, if a little bit more on your partner’s side. You do not, however, want the scale to bottom out on your partner’s side with nothing left on yours. That being said, you also don’t want to take everything because resentment works in both directions.