A note to my male readers (yes ladies I have male readers): This post is in no way meant to slander or demean your gender. This post is to explain to females why they shouldn’t attempt to give you information in the form of a dissertation.
We’ve all had the experience of talking a blue streak to a guy on a topic we thought was terribly important only to have his response be, “huh?”. The simple (completely unscientific) fact of the matter is that men process information differently than we do. We like to talk things to death and achieve consensus – men are not like this.
Ladies, men have notoriously short attention spans. Rather than being frustrated by this, use it to your advantage.
- Take what you’re going to say and bullet point it. Be concise. Keep adjectives and lengthy details/reasons to a minimum. Give him only the necessary information.
- If you’re going to give him a problem, give him a potential solution. If you don’t give him a potential solution, he will look for one on his own and it may not be what you want.
- Stick to one issue at a time unless you want all of them but one to be forgotten. Don’t expect him to have perfect recall of what you said.
- Do not wander off topic or go beyond your bullet points when you speak with him. The more words you give him to concentrate on means the more words he’ll have to sort through to figure out what’s important. Don’t do this. More words = more confusion.
- Be concise without being curt. You’re communicating information, not anger. If you come across as angry, he’ll concentrate on making you happy rather than on what you’re saying. Practice in front of a mirror or with a friend to get the delivery correct.