I’m always amazed at the people who think that a relationship should run itself. To me, that’s akin to saying that our only responsibility to our (future) children is to birth them out and after that, they’re on their own.
There are people who will break up with their partner when it’s no longer fun or when things start getting tough. You probably have a friend with a story of how, when the chips were down, their partner cut and run. While it may not seem like it at the time, the partner leaving was a blessing. Who wants to be involved with someone who is only kind-of committed?
Relationships require work. They’re sometimes uncomfortable. Most of the time, a relationship requires your best efforts. Only a tiny amount of the time, you can be on cruise control. That’s part of the beauty of a relationship – it’s not perfect and it’s always evolving. You are challenged to adapt and to better yourself through that adaptation. There is a certain nobility in a long-standing relationship. It is a manifestation of character.
“When the Japanese mend broken objects, they aggrandize the damage by filling the cracks with gold. They believe that when something’s suffered damage and has a history it becomes more beautiful.” ~Barbara Bloom
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