Another dirty little secret of relationships – they get boring. In the beginning, we’re all shiny and new – everything about the other person is exciting. You’ll talk on the phone for hours. You’re desperate to know every little last detail about the person. They seem like the most fascinating person on the planet. Then one day….they’re just another guy with his feet up on your couch. How did it all go wrong?
Honestly? Nothing has gone wrong – you’ve simply gotten used to each other. Love matures, it starts as a biological imperative (make babies!) and then mellows into stable partnership based on mutual respect and friendship. This is the good part! The “love and rockets” phase was ruled by your hormones, not your head. Now you have to use your brain to keep it interesting.
Being interested comes from being interesting. If you are happy and satisfied with who you are, the less likely you will be to pick apart the faults of your partner. It may sound counter-intuitive to work on your relationship by starting with yourself but the more joy you have in your life, the more joy you bring into the lives of others. Do not lose yourself in a relationship, keep yourself in one.