The general nature vs. nurture relationship has been debated for a few hundred years and it certainly won’t be decided with this blog post. Some people may believe that a relationship will take care of itself and that you never have to “work” on it. A better belief is to nurture your partner to achieve the relationship that you want.
Nurturing your partner is not about mothering him or attempting to control him. Nurturing your partner is about creating an open and consistent environment in which both partners can flourish. A word of caution: a nurturing environment can not solve your relationship problems, it can only provide a framework within which both partners can solve their own problems.
- Do not lie, cheat, steal, or engage in any behavior that is contrary to a healthy relationship.
- Be supportive but also be honest about your abilities, do not over-promise and under-deliver.
- Create a non-combative environment within your home where either partner can speak their mind without fear of reprisal.
- Actively listen when your partner speaks and give them your full attention.
- Develop a fair and uniform set of rules that both partners adhere to.
- Negotiate any changes to the relationship in good faith.
- Demonstrate relationship cohesion whenever possible – stand up for your partner and make them feel cared for.