In-laws can be the best part or the worst part of the marital package and it’s up to you how you decide to navigate the in-law obstacle course.
- Option 1 – Hands off approach. Allow your partner to take the lead with his family and decide how often and with whom you socialize. Let him mediate any disputes that arise. You take a background role of gift purchases and courteous small talk. Pro: Whatever happens, it’s not your fault. Con: You may come off as standoffish.
- Option 2 – Hands on approach. Get involved with your in-laws and develop relationships independent of your significant other. You handle your own affairs with your in-laws and do not expect him to take sides. Pro: A close relationship with your in-laws. Con: A breakup means losing more than just your partner.
- Option 3 – Middle ground. Develop close relationships with select in-laws. Do not involve them in the details of your relationship with your spouse and vice-versa. Pro: Best of both worlds. Con: A breakup can mean losing a close friend.
Nothing says that you have to be best friends with your in-laws however they are your spouse’s family so you’re best served by remaining on good terms with them. Do not put your spouse in the middle of your business with them nor should you allow yourself to become a pawn in their internal struggles. Remember, most mother-in-laws want what is best for their sons – if you are that, you’re golden.