Obviously if you’ve read my blog in the past week you realize that I’m against co-mingling of just about anything before marriage. I may sound like a bit of a spoilsport but the statistics on successful relationships are not in your favor. It sounds terrible, I know. I don’t mean to sound like a Negative Nelly, I just want you to be realistic about your relationship.
A successful long-term relationship requires a lot of work, both in the beginning and continuing through the course of the involvement. When we are in the throes of passion, the last thing in the world we’re thinking about is boring stuff like setting the foundation for a good future – we’re too busy being enthralled by our new love. In the giddiness of a new relationship, things like finance and legalities seems to dim. Unfortunately, if you break up – a big old spotlight is going to be shining on each and every poor choice you made at the inception of the relationship. (This includes not using protection before asking to see someone’s current health report!)
I’m not trying to stop you. I’m trying to slow you down – if only just long enough to think about the long-term ramifications of your decisions. A lease may not seem like a big deal until you move out and he doesn’t make the payments, affecting your credit for years. Living together may not seem like a big deal until he does a favor for a friend, like hiding evidence of a crime, and you get arrested for being an accessory-after-the-fact. Not everything will seem like such a big deal when it happens because you’re thinking that you’re going to be together forever. However, what happens if you’re not? What happens then?
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