Books on relationship questions can be a fabulous way to get to know your partner. Unfortunately a lot of them are religion-based which can make people feel excluded or turned off by the concept, so it’s important to pick the right one. I don’t recommend buying “blind” off the internet. Try to check them out at your local library first so that you know if a book is the right fit for you.
Once you do decide on a book, don’t assume that your partner is going to joyfully and willingly spend hours being interrogated. Break the questions up, a few at a time – even one-at-a-time, and plan when they will be asked. If your partner can’t function until after his third cup of coffee, then asking them over breakfast isn’t a good choice. Agree on some ground rules for the questions like no arguing over how someone feels and not holding someone’s answer against them.
Books that you might want to try:
- 1001 Questions to Ask Before You Get Married by Monica Leahy
- 365 Questions for Couples by Michael Beck, Stanis Marusak Beck and Seanna Beck
- The Book of Questions by Gregory Stock, Ph.D.