This past week must have seemed a bit like Break-up Week on the Discovery Channel which must have seemed a bit strange on a relationship blog. However, breaking up is an important part of the relationship process. We would feel incredibly lucky if the first pair of jeans we took into a dressing room fit perfectly on us forever but somehow we expect that of our relationships.
As you grow and change throughout this life, you will need someone who will be able to grow and change with you. When you’re picking someone for a relationship, consider how you’re going to feel about them in 5, 10, 25 years. They might be fabulous for you right now but are they going to evolve in the same direction as you do? If not, are they going to be comfortable with the changes you experience and are you going to be comfortable with them potentially staying the same. Alternately, you may meet someone that you could see settling down and raising kids with but you’re just not there yet.
You can learn something from every relationship you have, even if it’s what you don’t want. Learning to break up the right way not only allows you to gain insight as to why a relationship didn’t work (and what you might need to work on), it can allow you to re-enter the life of that not-right-now guy at a later date. Breaking up can only refine you, don’t dread it. When life hands you lemons, make lemonade.
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