If you don’t recognize the quote, it’s George Carlin.
People fight. Couples fight. When our words fail us, when we feel that we are in danger of losing a logical argument, when we can’t seem to let go of our preconceived notions – we fight. Later on in this blog I’ll teach you how to fight and more importantly, how to fight productively. For the moment, let’s just take it as a fact that people fight.
However, fighting doesn’t have to be the end of a relationship. In fact, you should never break up during a fight. During a fight, tensions are high, your emotions aren’t under your control, you’re too busy blowing up or shutting down to make a rational decision. In the middle of a fight, you shouldn’t be making any decisions that impact your life in a major way. Bite those words back as hard as you need to because you can’t take them back.
Instead, after the fight when you’re calm, ask yourself if your life would be better without the person. Breaking up should be a cold, rational decision, entered into after heavy consideration and weighing the pros and cons. No, it’s not romantic – but breaking up isn’t romantic either.