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Premeditated sex

Until now I’ve encouraged you to hold off on sex until the relationship has been established or to take a lover while you’re shopping for a boyfriend.  Now I’m going to encourage you to shake the cobwebs off the old girl but with some rules:

  1. Sex has to be premeditated.  You have to do it intentionally and with forethought.  No “it just happened.”  Shave your legs, bring a condom, and be a big girl.
  2. If he’s not your boyfriend, don’t act like he is.  Don’t stay the night.  Don’t expect to cuddle.  Don’t get attached.
  3. If it’s a new relationship, know what you’re getting yourself into.  Know what it means to you, know what it means to him.  Make a smart decision.
  4. Communicate what you like and what you don’t like.  You are responsible for teaching him how to satisfy you sexually.  He’s not a mind-reader – let him know how he’s doing (score card not needed).
  5. Do nothing you’re not comfortable with.  Waking up with regrets sucks.  You can add something later but you can’t un-ring a bell.

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