While there are individuals on both sides of the gender aisle that like to gab, women have the reputation for being the more verbose of the sexes. Whether that’s deserved is still out for debate but I think everyone can agree that men and women communicate differently.
Women tend to speak in full sentences. We speak about our emotions (maybe not elegantly but still…). Chatting works to both address grievances and form social bonds. We put a premium on talking as a primary form of communication.
Men, on the other hand, are a bit of a tougher nut to crack. They use their own subtext (grunts, sports metaphors, physical jostling). They bond over shared experiences and trying to elicit an emotion can drive you insane (unless he’s emo but that’s a whole other kettle of fish).
The point here is NOT to expect a man to communicate like a woman, either actively or passively. Stop trying to communicate with him like he’s a girl- those allegories are merely confusing. Stop trying to interpret what he’s saying like he’s a girl. By-and-large, when a guy does talk to you, there’s no subtext involved with his words; he’s saying what he means.