We’re always trying to put our best foot forward and give the other person the best possible impression of ourselves. Usually you have to invest significant time in someone before you truly know who they are. Red flags may be visible but we tend to give the other person the benefit of the doubt.
Sometimes, however, the other person shows you who they are. It is usually a moment that leaves you speechless. For better or worse, this person has just exposed their true self to you. Pause and think about what you’ve learned.
Some decisions are simple. They’re married, insane or a criminal on the lam. Some decisions are more complicated. Unusual religious beliefs, diametrically opposed political views, a lack of drive that may become an issue in the long run. You’ll need to think long and hard if these are things you can live with.
The point is, when someone shows you who they are, under no circumstances should you deny who is standing in front of you – believe them.