When you’re dating, it isn’t reasonable to expect that you (or the person you’re talking to) is going to maintain an exclusive relationship from the moment you meet. In fact, you would probably be better off dating several men at once to avoid getting tunnel vision or settling for a bird in the hand.
When you’re dating multiple people, it’s important to define the limits for yourself and for those whom you are dating. Are you okay with dating multiple people? Are you okay with your person-of-interest dating multiple people? How much emotional entanglement with multiple people are you comfortable with? How far are you willing to go sexually with multiple people? Know where you draw the line.
If you are dating multiple people, it’s polite and conscientious to let the other persons know and to let them know what your parameters are. This needn’t be a brouhaha, simply drop your guidelines into a conversation, “I enjoy sex but I wait until I’m exclusive with someone,” or “I’m more comfortable dating multiple people until there is a reason not to.”
When you find yourself getting more serious about someone, that is the time to talk about taking things to the next level. That will be covered in a later blog. Until then, enjoy being in the moment.