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Online dating – awesome or awful?

I don’t know too many people who haven’t at least put up a profile on a dating website.  Online dating has exploded in the past few years and for good reason – it allows you to shop for a mate from the comfort of your own home.

The pros:

  • Lots of profiles to flip through.
  • Knowing what you have in common before the actual date.
  • People on dating sites are looking for dates and/or a relationship.

The cons:

  • Lots of profiles to flip through.
  • Outright liars and time-wasters.
  • Finding a great person halfway around the world.

Online dating requires a bit more savvy than being set up by your great aunt Mildred.  You need to pay attention to what the person is saying and if what they’re saying makes sense and is consistent (why yes, you should take notes, keep emails and keep logs of your text messages).  If you think something is contradictory don’t be reticent to ask for clarification.  If you think someone is lying, they probably are.

You will probably find people a bit more serious about dating if they’re on a pay dating site rather than a free one.  Of course there will be “players” and jerks on those sites too just do your best to identify and block them.  Take your time to get to know someone before meeting them but don’t allow a false sense of intimacy to develop with someone whom you’ve not yet met.

If you want to narrow down your choices you might try a niche site however don’t choose something that you only have a passing interest in.  It’s hard to maintain an interest in cat herding if you’re not truly passionate about it.


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