“The one who loves the least, controls the relationship.” Dr. Robert Anthony
I’ve always had mixed feelings about this phrase because when taken simply as a quote, it almost appears to be an invitation to manipulate. While I do agree that the person who feels less than the other holds the balance of power in any relationship, this isn’t to be celebrated because that person is living a less-full life.
The upside: Being in control of the relationship makes you feel good, feel powerful. It’s hedging your bets against getting hurt. You know that if you call the tune, the other person will dance.
The downside: You’re missing out on the best part of the relationship – that wonderful heady feeling of love. You’re holding yourself back and consciously depriving yourself of the full experience.
You have to decide what’s right for you but it if comes down to having love or having control – choose love.