Here is where it gets a little tricky. I’m asking you to check out guys you wouldn’t normally even give a second-glance to but you have to be careful not to fall in love with their “potential”. When we’re more interested in what a guy could be rather than what he is, we’re not only fooling ourselves as to who we’re getting involved with we’re also setting ourselves up for failure. I’m not saying not to get involved with a guy who could use a little tweaking just don’t be surprised if he doesn’t take kindly to the make-over and don’t ever get involved with a guy where the tweaking is a deal-breaker.
So how can we tell the difference? You have to take your time to get to know the man, not the potential. If he’s truly happy being a slacker, you’re never going to make him a physician. If he’s a major work-a-holic, don’t expect him to participate in your desire to backpack around Australia for 3 months. You have to know yourself but you also have to know him. Keep the blinders off ladies, you’re doing yourself no favors by refusing to see him for what he is.
As always, my mailbox is open: firstname.lastname@example.org