We’ve all done it. We’ve Googled an ex. We’ve looked up his Facebook status. We’ve gone beyond a simple, “gosh, I wonder how so-and-so is doing.” I’m here to tell you to stop. Not out of some moral quandary (although it is when you think about it) but because you will never be able to move forward if you’re always looking backward.
Doing it even once is going to send you into a spiral. You’ll be looking him up on a regular basis. You’ll be looking up your seventh-grade boyfriend. You’ll even be looking up guys that you didn’t like. You’re just going to have to stop and to stop immediately.
It will be hard to stop. You’ll tell yourself that it isn’t that bad. Temptation will spring out of the blue. But you’re going to have to quit cold turkey. Snap a rubber band around your wrist. Put a dollar in a jar. Take a walk instead. Remember – nothing that your ex is doing is worth your time. Even if he is a cancer researcher in line for a Nobel prize, it’s not worth your time.
Focus on your hobbies, go out with your friends, get involved with your life and your ex’s life will pale by comparison. Stay engaged in your life rather than lolling in a fool’s paradise of what-ifs.